![]() ![]() Best friends can last fondly in your memory forever, even if you’ve both moved on. You can still cherish the memories you’ve had together without feeling guilt-driven to create new ones. If you are not approaching each other with love and kindness, it might be time to reevaluate the friendship. There are some best friendships I’ve had where I started to feel bad about myself after hanging out with them, even though they proclaimed our BFF status, they were no longer treating me like one. Sometimes taking a step back from the intensity of being best friends can provide clarity for the relationship. While maintaining a BFF takes constant time and effort, feeling stuck in a friendship just because you have a shared past, doesn’t mean you have to suffer through a shared future. It can be hard to decipher if someone is going through a rough patch where they need extra support or if the friendship is over. We’ve all been guilty of trying to make a bad thing work. ![]() How long is forever, really? In the day and age of instant gratification, having a best friend or confidant (even if it’s only for a short period) is something to be commended. Television often emphasizes having one, true best friend-from Jessica Day and Cece Parekh in “New Girl” to JD and Turk from “Scrubs.” While these friendships exemplify the rewarding and positive aspects of BFF relationships, we have to face the fact that sometimes these friendships don’t work out. Pop culture has also played a big part in convincing people to stay friends much longer than may be healthy. But just because old friendships don’t last, doesn’t mean they’re any less valuable-it just means there are new, exciting friendships on the horizon. More often than not, we drift apart from our childhood or even high school BFFs. There is a lot of shame surrounding friend breakups, but it’s impossible to assume that everyone will stay together through all stages of life. And it’s time to stop beating ourselves up about the best friendships lost over the years. We spend our youth making best friends, but in adulthood, is it really sustainable and realistic to get along with the same people we played Polly Pockets with when we were seven? While for some lucky people, that is the case, for the rest of us, it’s not true. ![]()
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